(Clearwisdom.net) Today when I exchanged opinions with Practitioner A, I realized that I have a big attachment, which is that I am attached to others' attachments.
At first, Practitioner A kept talking about Practitioner B's attachments, saying that he did not pay attention to minor details no matter whose home he visited, and he refused to listen when others pointed it out to him. I replied that it might have been to eliminate her [Practitioner A's] attachment. She indeed saw her own attachment, that is, the attachment to others' attachments. When she let go of this thought, Practitioner B also changed his behavior.
Looking at this matter carefully, I noticed that I also have the same attachment. For instance, two coordinators from our area were once imprisoned, leaving us short of practitioners able to coordinate things. My attachment intensified, but I did not detect it. I only thought that I should be tolerant and thoughtful of fellow practitioners, and I should not complain. However, I still complained to others about someone who was dealing with strong fear or another one did not step forward to do things or someone else with strong attachments to emotion that didn't want to do anything. On the surface, I believed that I was pointing these things out for the sake of others. Actually, I was covering up my own attachments. If I'm truly good to others, I should not blame or complain about others, but treat them kindly. Master said, "Coercion cannot change people's hearts." ( "Coercion Cannot Change People's Hearts" in Essentials for Further Advancement II) The appearance of this matter is meant for us to cultivate. How can it change for the better if our attachments are not eliminated?
Don't be attached to others' shortcomings. Without that attachment, the shortcomings may well also disappear.
