(Minghui.org) Everybody wants to change others, but not themselves. Everybody is tolerant with himself or herself and considers everything from his or her own perspective. This is the selfishness of being human. Most people are like this. It is hard for people to look within to see where they haven't done well when problems arise.
But nowadays, thousands upon thousands of people are looking within when in conflict to see how they can improve. They don't point fingers at others. Instead, they look within and, as a result, are more in harmony with others. Their environment is peaceful and calm. What causes them to do this in such a personal-interest-driven society? I can proudly tell you that it is Falun Dafa that has changed them.
Every Falun Dafa practitioner tries to guide their behaviour according to the principles of Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance.
Master said:
“When you meet with a conflict, it doesn’t matter whether you are in the right. You should be asking yourself, “What on my part isn’t right in this situation? Might it really be that there is something wrong on my part?” You should all be thinking this way, with your first thought being to scrutinize yourself to try to find the problem. Whoever is not like this is not in fact a true cultivator of Dafa. It is a magical tool in our cultivation. This is a distinguishing feature of our Dafa disciples’ cultivation. Whatever it is that you encounter, the first thought should be to scrutinize yourself, and it’s called 'looking within.'” (“What is a Dafa Disciple”)
Practitioners consider others first and try to be a good person, and then an even better person.
I'd like to share with you some of my stories.
I used to be a sensitive person with a petty mind and would easily get angry. I was very concerned about my reputation. I quarrelled with my husband over trivial things and tried to get the upper hand. Whenever in conflict, I always blamed him. I was narrow-minded and intolerant. If he went out for dinner, I would ring him again and again, and I would keep nagging him if he came home late, sometimes for the whole night. Both of us ended up exhausted and hurt.
I started to cultivate in Dafa seriously in 2004. I read Zhuan Falun and learned why people have suffering and hardships, and how everything has a causal relationship and is caused by our own karma.
Master requires every practitioner to consider others first in every situation. When in conflict, practitioners have to look within to see where they haven't done well.
Master said:
“...one should not fight back when being punched or insulted, but should conduct oneself with a high standard.” (Zhuan Falun)
Practitioner have to meet this standard and constantly improve their xinxing. After understanding these principles, I have acted according to the requirements of Dafa. When in conflict, I change my attitude and look within. Falun Dafa has fundamentally changed me.
As long as I have free time, I study the Fa and practice the exercises. I have been deeply touched and encouraged by the principles explained in Zhuan Falun . I have genuinely changed.
With his promotion, my husband went out for dinners more and more. One day he was drunk and his driver sent him home. I didn't get angry, but rather went downstairs and helped him walk up the stairs. I helped him take off his clothes and shoes and lie down. When he vomited, I cleaned it up. I didn't complain at all. I always thought of Master's instruction to consider things from the other person's point of view.
I used to hate my husband if he got drunk. I would not have looked after him before; instead, I would have been angry at him. But now Dafa has changed me and requires me to consider others first.
My husband had to go out for dinner two or three times a week and sometimes all seven days a week. But I could still keep calm and do whatever I had to do. I told him not to drink too much and to look after himself, but I didn't argue about this issue. Dafa has completely changed me.
I was a person very concerned about my reputation. One day at my in-laws' home, my husband scolded me loudly. I felt I had lost face in front of the family. Previously I would have argued with him and made everyone unhappy. But now I am a Dafa disciple and act according to the requirements of Falun Dafa. Master's instructions are on my mind, so I look within.
I decided the problem must be with me; otherwise, my husband would not have behaved like this. I didn't quarrel with him and he got over it quickly. Through this incident, I let go of the attachment of saving face and avoided unhappiness within the family, who were very impressed with me.
The husband of my sister-in-law said to his wife after they came home: “You see, your sister-in-law didn't say a word, even though your brother behaved like this. You'd better practice Falun Dafa as well.” My mother-in-law told me this after the incident.
On another day, I went shopping with my husband. As soon as we got into the car, I said something to him (I can't remember what I had said) and he burst into anger. I immediately looked within to see what I had done to have made him lose his temper.
I kept calm and didn't say anything back. He then got quiet as well. When we got out of the car, he took the initiative to carry my bag for me and looked like he was very apologetic. He said that he shouldn't have lost his temper. If this happened in the past, my anger would have lasted a long time. But now it was over instantly. Looking inward is the magic tool that Master has taught us to use.
Falun Dafa has changed thousands upon thousands of practitioners. I am only one of them. When coming across conflicts, we look within. We constantly broaden our minds and increase our capacity for tolerance. Millions of people have been elevated in Dafa cultivation, and countless conflicts have been resolved in no time.
It is a pure land. Because I have improved my moral standard and elevated my realm, everything around me has become more beautiful. I have become healthy and recovered from diseases such as dysmenorrhea, chest pain, pharyngitis and rhinitis.
Falun Dafa has changed me and re-shaped me. I have become a new person and have a healthy body and mind.
My gratitude to Master is beyond words. I will continue to follow Master's requirements to be a good person, and a better person.
Thank you, Master, for saving me! I will cultivate diligently to be worthy of Your salvation!
