(Minghui.org) I was born in 1951 to a poor farmer’s family. Because we were poor and I had many siblings, I was only able to finish middle school. I then had to look for a job. I was caught up in the daily grind of working to survive, and I did not know what I was living for.
As bad as my situation was, my life became truly miserable after I got married. My husband was uneducated, ill-mannered, and had a very bad temper. Our conversations were never civilized or calm, instead it sounded as though we were fighting a war! He could never speak quietly, and he always yelled.
I had a very hard time getting used to him. To make matters worse, he became addicted to drinking, smoking and gambling. He didn’t care about the children nor did he support the family. He frequently stayed out all night gambling. I had to lock our child in the house and go everywhere looking for him. If I found him and brought him home, we would fight the rest of the night.
He kept gambling but seldom won. He lost more and more money, and then he had to borrow more money to cover his debts. We didn’t have money to pay back the previous loans. So I had to borrow money from all my relatives and friends to help him fend off the creditors. I was the sole support of our entire family. I was under great stress and felt like I was on the verge of an emotional breakdown. I was sick and in debt. We were on the brink of divorce!
Dafa Saved My Marriage
In 1998, I was fortunate to learn about Falun Dafa. Many questions were answered, and I understood why sometimes bad things happen to good people.
Master Li Hongzhi said:
“In cultivation, when you’re really having trouble with somebody, or when other people treat you badly, it could be one of two scenarios. One is that you might have mistreated them in your previous life. You feel wronged, "Why are they treating me like that?" Well, why did you treat them like that before? You say, "I don’t know anything about back then. This lifetime has nothing to do with that lifetime." But it doesn’t work like that.” (Zhuan Falun)
I wanted to memorize the Falun Dafa teachings, so that I would know how to handle difficult situations, and I would post them on the walls. Master Li also said:
“The challenges in this world test your character at every moment. When experiencing indescribable humiliation, when losing out, when tempted by money and lust, when in a power struggle, when rage and jealousy emerge in conflicts, when discord in society and in the family take place, and when experiencing all kinds of hardships, can you always follow closely the character criteria?” (Falun Gong)
As I continued to study and internalize the teachings of Falun Dafa, I could feel my feisty nature, arrogance, and hatred for my husband disappearing. Instead, I felt sorry for him and realized that we were predestined to be together.
As I continued to practice and adjust myself, my outlook changed; I felt happy and at peace. I stopped fighting with my husband. I became very tolerant and caring towards him. I consulted him first before I made decisions, and I respected his opinion. He also changed. He stopped yelling, and he volunteered to do household chores. He even cooked for our guests. Our relatives and friends all said that he was a very good cook.
My husband often tells our family and friends how wonderful Dafa is. He says: “You should say Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.”
My husband sincerely believes in Dafa and feels that Master is also looking after him. In 2012, a truck hit him while he was riding his motorcycle. The young truck driver wanted to take him to the hospital, but my husband refused. He told him to drive carefully and let him go. The bystanders who witnessed the accident objected and urged my husband to demand money from the driver. However, my husband said that he was fine, and he didn’t want to extort any money from him.
When he came home and told me what happened, I was very happy for him. I told him that he made the right decision. Even though his legs were swollen and covered with bruises, he just washed them with water. A couple of days later, he was back to normal.
My husband feels that because I am a practitioner, he has really benefited from Dafa. He is already in his late sixties. When our daughter asked him to go to the hospital for a checkup. He replied: “Whenever I have pain somewhere, I just say, ‘Falun Dafa is Good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is Good,’ and the pain is gone.”
My daughter smiled and said: “My Dad has really benefited from Dafa.”
Category: Improving Oneself
