(Minghui.org) Prior to practicing Falun Dafa in 2004, I had all kinds of ailments, such as gastritis, gynecological issues, celiac disease, and arthritis, which made me suffer greatly. Soon after I began practicing, they disappeared without my taking any medications, and my body felt light.
When my husband was two years old, his younger brother was born, and their mother left her older son with her mother to take care of him. His grandmother and his uncle really cared more about him than his biological mother. He lived with his grandma and didn’t leave home until he joined the army at the age of 18. His mother did not raise him.
Resolving a Grievance with My In-Law’s Family
After serving in the army for four years, he was discharged and his grandma passed away two months later, so he had to move in with his mother. My husband once had a conflict with his stepfather, who cursed his deceased grandma. He was very upset and argued with his stepfather. His stepfather kicked him out of the house.
After we married, I had a boy and a girl a year apart. My mother-in-law and I share the same courtyard. Even so, no matter how busy or tired I was, she never gave me a hand, never babysat my children. Not only that, she bad-mouthed me behind my back to my husband, resulting in him often swearing at me for no reason. I was very upset, but because I was timid, I could only endure it.
When my brother-in-law built a house, my husband helped him get the permit. He also called the local villagers over to help out. It was as if he built the house for himself. He looked after everything, from building the foundation to completion—58 days in total. During that time, I only had one meal in my brother-in-law’s, yet his stepfather cursed as he said to my husband, “You work here, we feed you, now we have to feed your wife?” My husband’s uncle was there at the time and thought my husband’s stepfather was being unreasonable. He ended up arguing with him.
In the early 90s, my sister-in-law went into labor and things weren't going well. The rural conditions were poor, and the transportation was no better. The hospital was about 15 miles away. At the time, there was not even a tricycle in the village. My brother-in-law was so worried that all he could do was cry.
There was an active gold mine on the mountain, so they had trucks. My husband was a village cadre (government employee) and had some connections, so he walked up the mountain in the middle of the night and explained the situation to a truck driver, who agreed to take the family to the hospital.
When they got the hospital, the doctor asked my brother-in-law to decide whether to save the mother or the child. My brother-in-law had no idea and just cried. My husband said to save the mother. My brother-in-law’s family had no money, so my husband quickly returned home with the driver and took our last 80 yuan. The next day, he rode a bicycle to the hospital. It was still winter, and many sections of the road were covered with ice. After depositing the money at the hospital, it turned out that both the mother and child were doing fine.
We have helped our in-laws so many times. Every time, when I thought about how unfair they were to me, I felt so wronged and upset that I couldn’t express it. My health deteriorated, and I developed many health problems that couldn’t be healed. I was in extreme pain from the symptoms and the mental duress.
“I Won’t Feel Sorry for Myself Even if I Die!”
When I was in the depths of despair, I ran into a friend I grew up with. She told me, “Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is wonderful! Falun Dafa teaches people to be good, and it can heal one’s illnesses and help one keep fit.” I was so happy to hear that. I put my heart into reading the Dafa books and learning the exercises. Without noticing, my health steadily improved. Soon enough, all my ailments were gone. I was extremely happy, and my heart was filled with hope. I also felt grateful to Master Li Hongzhi and didn’t know how to pay him back. I felt that Master Li was the greatest benefactor in this world!
I have been through great transformations since then. I gained a new life. I not only became healthy, but also changed my character for the better. I went from being sad and rarely talking, to being talkative and optimistic. The sad look on my face has been replaced by an expression of uncontrollable joy.
My resentment for my in-laws also went away. I no longer resented the people who harmed me in the past. I treated them well, as if nothing had happened in the past. When my mother-in-law was sick, I brought her to my home. I helped her where I could and bought the food she liked. I said nothing about what had happened between us. My mother-in-law was so touched that she often became teary. She said, “How can I thank you? I didn’t expect that you would ever take care of me, but now I rely on you. I won’t feel sorry for myself even if I die! I’ve eaten things that I never had before. You are such a great person!”
I replied, “That’s because I practice Dafa. I wouldn’t have treated you like this otherwise.”
After my mother-in-law had been with me for a month, her physical situation improved. She didn’t expect that her older son and daughter-in-law, whom she’d never cared for, would be so kind to her. Her granddaughter also bought her goodies and often came to see her.
My brother-in-law’s wife developed a difficult health problem. My husband and I went to see her, but my brother-in-law kicked us out. After he lost his job in the mine, my husband arranged for him to be an apprentice carpenter. But he couldn’t pick up the trade, plus he had a bad temper and was always at odds with my husband. It was even worse after my husband had our son-in-law get into carpentry. My brother-in-law really resented us and cut off all contact.
But my brother-in-law’s wife acknowledged Dafa and recited the auspicious phrases, “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good.” After a while, she got better. But my brother-in-law still held onto his resentment and was often disrespectful of Dafa. In the end, he developed the same condition as his wife.
I sympathized with him, because I’d had a similar experience. It was Falun Dafa that saved me, helping to relieve my suffering from illnesses and life. So I always wanted to see him to bring him Dafa’s blessings. As long as one believes in the auspicious phrases, miracles can happen. However, I was afraid that he’d lose his temper and make his situation worse.
In the end, I didn’t manage to help him understand my intention. He developed bone cancer, then lung cancer. In his last days, he told his family, “They [referring to my family] can come if they want to. Since I’m still around, let’s resolve this grievance.” When we went to see him, we shared our thoughts about what had happened in the past. He also spoke from his heart, saying, “Right! You always looked after me. When I built the house, if there was one person helping me, tha was you [my husband].” It was very sad that he finally passed away. If only he had changed his mindset earlier, his fate might have been different.
These are my personal experiences. If I didn’t practice Dafa, I wouldn’t have let go of all my grievances. So I want to tell the world: “Master is wonderful! Dafa is wonderful! If you have ever benefited from Dafa, then please thank Master and Dafa!”
My sister-in-law had the same illness as my brother-in-law, but their different attitudes toward Dafa led to different outcomes.
I hope everyone can remember that those who practice Falun Dafa are kind people. They are beneficial to others and society.
(Selected submission in celebration of World Falun Dafa Day on Minghui.org)
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