Letting Go of Every Resentment

(Minghui.org) As a cultivator cultivating in ordinary society, I am subtly affected by all sorts of human attachments. If I do not take notice, I will act like an ordinary person, being swayed by all sorts of human notions.

Eliminating Competitiveness and Resentment, and Treating Others with Compassion

My work environment is also my cultivation environment. I have a young coworker named Jing, who has a strong set of skills. Jing always acted superior to everyone else and was very condescending. She would nitpick over every little thing I did and speak arrogantly. She also spread rumors and intentionally created tension among her coworkers. My coworkers and I disliked her and, at times, I argued with her, too. This is a manifestation of being competitive: I behaved like an everyday person.

I thought to myself, “This is not right. I am a cultivator. How can I behave like an ordinary person? Isn’t this an opportunity for me to upgrade my xinxing whenever Jing does or says something arrogant?” The reason her disdain bothered me was because I wanted people to praise me. She picked on me because I wanted people to respect me. I also had the attachment of jealousy and looking down on others, and I needed to cultivate my speech. Many attachments surfaced when I looked inward. I needed to thank Jing instead of taking issue with her. When my notions changed and I looked at things from a practitioner’s perspective, everything seemed to turn out for the better.

It was not that Jing was being at odds with me; in fact, it was arranged so that I could cultivate solidly. I no longer quarrel with her. I look at her positive side and treat Jing with compassion. She has changed a lot, and her attitude has become much nicer. She is less arrogant and has started to reflect on herself and help others. She also understood Falun Dafa and became aware of the persecution. When I looked at her negatively, she would appear the way I perceived her. When I changed my notions about her and looked at her from the perspective of a practitioner, she behaved completely different from before.

The first thought that comes into my mind is the most important. I should not judge other people with negative thoughts; I should treat them with compassion. I also should not resent other people and think badly of them. I need to look at people’s positive sides, tolerate their shortcomings, and sympathize with and understand them. I should put myself in other people’s shoes and look at the positive side of things.

It’s my understanding that practitioners should tolerate and understand each other even more so. As a practitioner, I should not be arrogant. I should treat others with sincerity and treasure our predestined relationship. I should cooperate with others during Fa-validating activities and let go of my ego. It’s my understanding that we as practitioners should come together as one body and be open-minded.

Eliminating Resentment for My Husband

I used to believe that I’d cultivated away my resentment for my husband. However, I realized my it was not eliminated at the root and still surfaced from time to time. We are the eldest siblings in our families and have different ways of communicating with people. Both of us are very strong-willed and want to be listened to. Even though I’d listen to him about many things and let him decide what to do, he still wasn’t satisfied. He picked on me a lot and over the most minor things. I’d tolerate it and try not to argue, but he just kept finding fault with me. It really irritated me, until I couldn’t hold it in anymore and ended up bickering with him.

He’d stop criticizing me as soon as I lost my temper. I understood that he was helping me to improve my xinxing, and I knew that I did not pass this test. Not only did I not pass the test, my resentment for him increased. Wasn’t I guilty of a competitive mentality and resentment, attachments that needed to be eliminated? How could I still call myself a cultivator? I was looking outward by always pointing out his faults, when I should have been looking inward and finding my own shortcomings.

My husband did the cooking at home ever since we got married. Recently, he started to complain that I didn’t cook, so I conducted myself as a practitioner, prepared meals, and waited for him to come home. I no longer resented him for finding fault with me and did whatever he asked. My heart was not moved when he swore at me. I knew these were opportunities for me to raise my xinxing. The problems between us lessened when I let go of my ego and truly cared for him and considered things from his point of view. He stopped criticizing me and now cooks without complaint. He no longer gloats over my misfortune and at times reminds me to send righteous thoughts, one of the three things practitioners are supposed to do.

I realized that my family conflicts were a reflection of my shortcomings and not abiding by Master’s teachings. As a practitioner, I should be tolerant and generous towards my family members. From this day on, I need to be altruistic and considerate.

Eliminating Resentment and the Attachment of Fear of the Police

The Chinese Communist Party has tasked the police with persecuting Falun Dafa practitioners over the past 26 years. I have firsthand experience of them harassing and persecuting me. Hearing police sirens frightened me because I could not help but think they were out to persecute practitioners. A knock on the door would scare me, and I held a grudge against the police. On so-called “sensitive days,” such the June 4th anniversary of the Tiananmen Square massacre, the police would harass practitioners. It also stressed my family members when the police came looking for them. Deep down inside, I was scared of being persecuted.

The attachment of fear made me frightened to face the police directly and also made me want to hide. A veteran practitioner told me that hiding is not the solution to anything. I realized that was true and that I needed to face the police. I am a Falun Dafa practitioner and am doing the most righteous thing in the universe; the evil is not worthy of interfering with me. Master is protecting me. I called the police officer who harassed me and explained my situation. I told him, “Falun Dafa is good. I am still a Falun Dafa practitioner and do not need to sign any guarantee statements.” Though the phone call did not go as I had planned at first, I realized I was not scared of the police anymore. I was relieved and longer resent the police, just pity them.

I know that Master has eliminated my attachment of fear. Only by firmly believing in Master and Dafa will I able to have righteous thoughts during troubles and persecution. I will not be scared of the evil when I have the Fa in my heart. Master wants to save all sentient beings and practitioners do not have any enemies. To better assist Master in saving sentient beings, I need to cultivate compassion and good thoughts.