Looking Within to Improve Even the Little Things in Our Lives

(Minghui.org) Below are some of my cultivation experiences. I look within to remove attachments and improve myself.

Eliminating Impatience

I rode with another practitioner to our group Fa study site on November 2, 2025. The traffic light was green as we approached an intersection with two cars ahead of us. The first car stopped to wait for an opportunity to turn left, blocking traffic. As a result, we had to wait at the intersection for the next green light. The other practitioner glared at the departing car and blamed the driver for our delay.

I said to this practitioner, “Master taught us that ‘Everything has its karmic relationship.’(Lecture Four, Zhuan Falun)’ Maybe this happened because we have an attachment to impatience. We should eliminate it and improve ourselves. It will be easier the next time it happens.”

Dealing Calmly with an Angry Colleague

A traditional Chinese medicine doctor said, “If a person often gets angry, Qi will accumulate in the chest. The Qi will form a substance after a period of time, and a lump or even a tumor may form if it gets into the breast.”

That reminded me of what happened to me over a decade after I got married. I often sulked and felt wronged when things did not go my way. After a while, I frequently felt discomfort in my left breast, and a lump then appeared. However, after my son was born and I started breastfeeding, the lump disappeared, and my milk ducts were clear.

The left side of my chest recently started to bother me again. I looked inward and realized that I often felt resentful when I encountered conflicts or thought I was treated unfairly. I felt bullied instead of looking for my own shortcomings. I held grudges against whoever was responsible for the perceived injustices, and my mind was not at peace. I was far from being a true cultivator. I then started to cultivate diligently, assimilated to the Fa, and remained undisturbed by anything. After a while, the discomfort disappeared.

One day, I reviewed a list of items on an inventory that were near the end of their lives and no longer usable. I asked the coworker who submitted the report why three recently expired items were on the disposal list. The coworker snarled that those items were useless, had been stored for some time, and couldn't be found. He said we could ask the principal for a final decision.

I calmly advised him not to be angry. Seeing my friendly attitude, he calmed down, knowing that I was only following the rules.

Being Compassionate to My Mother

My mother is on dialysis. I encouraged her to frequently recite the precious words “Falun Dafa is good, Truthfulness-Compassion-Forbearance is good” and to listen to Master's lectures. I told her that practicing the exercises would improve her health. She copied Zhuan Falun when she felt good.

Her health deteriorated after my father died in November 2019. I always reminded her to sincerely recite the precious words I'd taught her. One day, my mother told me that Master had taken care of her the night before.

She said, “I could not fall asleep, so I kept reciting the special phrases you taught me. I then had a sciatica attack in the middle of the night and felt pain in my lower back. While continuing to recite the phrases, I saw a young man dressed in white bending down to adjust my body several times. I was not scared at all. Shortly after, my back pain stopped, and I fell into a nice, deep sleep.”

The next day, we hired a domestic helper to take care of my mother. When the helper pushed her wheelchair outdoors, my mother accidentally fell to the ground. She fell again when the helper tried to pull her up. The two falls hurt her right shoulder, leaving her unable to copy scriptures. She then had difficulty standing, walking, sitting for long periods, and lying down. She often needed massages to relieve her pain.

When I went home to see my mother last September, she was in bed. When my younger sister helped her sit up on the edge of the bed, she did not look comfortable. I suggested that she would be more comfortable sitting in a chair nearby because it had a backrest. My mother looked displeased and said, “That is all you ever say. I cannot do what you say.”

My sister comforted her that I meant well. I suddenly realized that I often judged things based on my preconceived notions. I had not fully thought of things from her perspective. I was not compassionate enough to sense her pain. After I corrected my attachments, my mother spoke to me more kindly.

Discovering the Attachment of Complaining About Housework

I was busy with work and often did not have time for household chores during the week. When I did chores one weekend, I was shocked that some important documents had not been filed. I wanted to complain, but how could I? I felt ashamed that, after all this time, I still had so many human notions.

Letting Go of Grievances and Resolving Conflicts with a Colleague

During the academic year between August 2025 and July 2026, my school hired many new teachers to also serve as administrative directors and leaders to do administrative tasks for various departments. One day, a new teacher asked me how to handle an application for reimbursement of funds. I was very busy at the time, so I told her to look at her department's files from the previous months. She was not happy and became hostile towards me afterward.

I explained to her why I hadn't been able to help her at the time and apologized, but she did not accept my apology . During that time, I felt unfairly treated and had chest pain every day. I looked inward and realized that I was not considerate of her. I should be grateful to her for helping me find my shortcomings. I was at peace and no longer felt wronged. The chest pain soon subsided. She, in fact, apologized to me for reacting as she did.